A Qacha’s Nek woman who ‘looked aside’ as her husband repeatedly raped their minor daughter has been slapped with a 10-year jail sentence.
The husband, who had fled to South Africa after he was caught red-handed by villagers, however handed himself to the police after his wife was arrested.
The husband was this week bizarrely granted bail by resident magistrate, ’Mampho Mokoena, on the basis that he was the breadwinner.
The husband will now have to take care of the same teenage girl he allegedly raped and other minor children.
The husband, whose identity we have kept confidential to protect the 15-year-old daughter, has been sexually abusing the girl over a long time, the court heard.
He only came back home after his 42-year-old wife was arrested and charged over the minor’s rape. The husband surrendered to the Qacha’s Nek police.
The court heard that on March 11 this year, the girl went to school to celebrate Moshoeshoe’s Day and on her way back home she was accompanied by her boyfriend.
When the jealous father saw the two, he chased the boy away and dragged his daughter into the nearby bushes and raped her.
Villagers caught the father red-handed but he fled the scene and went to South Africa.
The matter was then reported to the police.
The court heard that when the police grilled the mother, she confessed that she knew that her husband had been abusing their daughter for some time.
Asked why she did not report the crime to the chief, the police or any authority she answered that she was afraid of losing her financial support.
“I knew that this was always happening and I never reported this because no one would work for me,” the mother told Magistrate Mokoena in court last week.
“I was afraid that he would be arrested and sent to prison,” she said.
Magistrate Mokoena also found the father guilty as charged but reserved sentencing pending the next appearance.
She granted the man bail after he pleaded with him saying he had to take care of the family, including the child he raped.
A local clinical social worker, ’Malefa Semakele, said women have a tendency of ignoring the fact that their children are being sexually assaulted by their partners.
“They lack parenting skills,” Semakele told thepost.
“Parents have to be responsible for everything that happens to their children,” she said.
Semakele said the other reason is that some women, when they are not financially stable, depend too much on men “and they can do anything to stay on the good side of men”.
She also said that people tend to use marriage to escape poverty and “as a result children are the ones who suffer if things don’t really go as expected”.
Dr Tšepang Majara, a local psychologist, said this happens to many women because they believe that “men are providers so women are afraid to voice out their concerns for fear that men will stop providing them with life’s necessities”.
“Some women live with fear in their own homes,” Dr Majara said.
“That makes them to turn a blind eye on matters affecting them and their children,” he said.
Thooe Ramolibeli